Wisdom Hacks: Learning from the 3 Signs Vashti Ignored

Vashti was the fairest of all the noblewomen in the kingdom of Persia during her time.

Do you know what they say about the difference between what men say and what wives hear? This noble couple is proof that this relationship challenge has its roots crusted deeply in ancient times. Vashti was taught from childhood to value her dignity and to respect her royal values. In modern times, she would have been one effortlessly classy woman with highly impeccable taste and a jaw-dropping gorgeous look. No one would have dared to make her feel less of a champion. She would always be on guard emotionally and psychologically. She was a queen in appearance, and she made choices every day for the royal household. She was a great homemaker.

How do you make decisions? When a “yes” clashes with your values and a “no” lands you in trouble with your superiors, what would be your response? Sometimes the first instinct is to repel anything that will dent our values or truth and stand for what we believe is right. That is not an awkward decision at all. We also take chances by stifling our opinions and blindly doing what has been asked of us, comforting ourselves that the responsibility of our responses lies with the person at the other end of the table.

Vashti was an ambassador of high moral standards who would not compromise for anything or anyone, especially not her King, whom she felt was being taken for a fool by the princes of the kingdom. She believed that if he were not drunk, he would not have asked her to parade her beauty in front of other men. She felt his request was condescending and took a decision to save him from disgracing his throne and the royal household. She disobeyed his direct order to “save face.”

It should not have gotten her banishment under normal circumstances, but it did. Do you know why? She crossed her bounds and made decisions for her King. A King no longer has power when his authority cannot earn him respect. Did Vashti undermine his position on purpose? I do not think so. She only wanted to act in a capacity to help him preserve his ‘falling’ dignity. Rendering help is not a bad idea but helping someone who did not ask for it or needs it can come with consequences. We must learn to get the clarity behind instructions before taking action.

Let me show you three things that could have prevented Vashti from falling into the pit that swallowed her royal existence. These three things will guide us on the journey of our Christian faith.

1. Do Not Hear; Listen!

In Vashti’s case, her husband felt bruised because she refused to heed his attention. He wanted to show the world his inestimable jewel. He wanted to let the people know that he had a worthy Queen who was selfless and agelessly beautiful in and out. Unfortunately, his Queen heard his instruction differently. She heard that she should come out for a beauty parade, and she based her response on that. She refused to let her mind interpret the instruction her ears had received. Everyone needs to learn to hear first and then listen for more clarity. When God speaks, we should learn to hear twice.

2. Comfort is a Dangerous Place to Live In

When you are in a position, never think that you are indispensable. Get wisdom, and in all, continually get understanding. Esther learned from her predecessor’s experience; she never stopped learning how to please her King. She never took advantage of the King’s love and admiration. Young Esther sought to be a better Queen daily, and the King never got enough of her. She continually learned how to massage and satisfy the desires of his ego. She did not stay comfortable because of her beauty.

3. Wisdom Is Given, Not Developed

Vashti displayed that she wanted to have the same measure of authority as her husband. The man respected her and her position so much. He allowed a separate banquet outside the one he was already hosting as the King, but she failed when it was time to engage a sense of wisdom. Being submissive is neither slavery nor folly.

We need the wisdom to understand the concept of submission, and it cannot be built or developed. Only God gives it. This wisdom was what made Esther loved by her King, his subjects, and the people.

Wisdom is of God, and the only way to get it is to seek for it. How do you commune with God? Does he speak, and you choose what to hear? Do you know Him enough to understand him? It is when you begin to understand God that you can seek his wisdom. Does the study of God’s word attract you at all? Are you the kind of Christian who would build aesthetics like Vashti or spend time seeking knowledge and wisdom like Esther? The Church is now closer to you than ever before. The gospel is spreading like wildfire. Most essentially, management tools such as ChurchPad have made the Bible study more interesting than you can imagine.

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